I was leafing through a recent edition of The Columbian, a local southern Washington newspaper, when an interesting advertisement caught my eye. It actually featured a white man with a very dark black woman. I thought to myself, “This is unusual”. Upon further reflection, however, I realized that this sort of couple has become more prevalent over the last few months in advertising. Just today, I was browsing through a catalog I got in the mail, and there it was again! A little white boy playing next to a little black girl.
Could it be that the crude obviousness of their promotion of black male/ white female pairing has attracted too much attention, and too much ridicule, for the comfort of those who control the media? Can we take credit for this development? I don’t think so.
A more plausible explanation is that pressure from black women has prompted this shift in focus. There is, in fact, a movement among black women to make it more socially acceptable for them to marry out. Khadija Nassif writes in her blog*:
I’m thankful to see that the BWE movement has achieved lasting victory after only a few short years:
- The core BWE message that Black women who are serious about marriage must expand their dating options to include nonblack men has firmly entered the mainstream. One can see this with the conversations and publicity surrounding Ralph Richard Banks’ book Is Marriage For White People?
- A critical mass of African-American women have heard the BWE message, and have MOVED ON into enjoying abundant life in the global village. They’ve stopped restricting themselves to the dead Black community and vampiric all-Black social circles. They’ve stopped hindering their marriage options by refusing to speak or engage in the “nothing but a Black man” self-sabotage…
This quiet and growing exodus of sensible African-American women has not gone totally unnoticed. There’s a YouTube video in which a frightened Black man asks the question, “Are Black Women Becoming Like Asian Women?” (in terms of dating and marrying White men). In terms of sensible Black women, the short answer is YES. As this worried Black male has noticed, increasing numbers of quality, desirable Black women are leaving the toxic all-Black dating market and have MOVED ON.
The victory of the BWE social justice movement will prove to be a lasting one because it’s sustained and enhanced by the ripple effects created by every African-American woman who finds joyous life in the outside world.
But I’m not even sure that people like Khadija can take credit for this change. Another possibility is that the media/corporate/government establishment has been pushing the black male/white female relationship so aggressively that it is starting to backfire on them. Thanks to their constant barrage of propaganda, it might now be considered an act of rebellion for black women to date non-black men, or for white men to date black women. As such, it has attained a degree of coolness.
I am against large-scale miscegenation of any sort, but not all miscegenation is equal. It is more harmful when there is a gross imbalance, when it is almost exclusively black men dating out. Not only does such an imbalance leave a lot of lonely and frustrated people, it is also both an expression of, and a contributor to, a caste system.
*Thanks to commenter Robyn (#32) at Amren for the link.